Interestingly, to me, my first reaction was to think of this post commodorified linked me to the other day. Obviously, there is a difference of both degree and proposed methodology, but it is fascinating to me that apparently there is a deeply felt conviction among some subset of men that the problem with today's society is that they do not have enough access to women's bodies.
(Also: because asking a Black woman if I can touch her hair is totally a healing experience for both of us, right? (I don't mean to imply the experiences are equivalent, but is theferrett completely tone deaf?))
For the record, my comment to theferrett's post:
I have occasionally admired your writing, but in this case, I'm sorry, your head is up your ass. I acknowledge that demystifying women's bodies, acknowledging there can be non-sexual contact between people of different genders is a worthy goal, but in this case, the core of your plan involves making women's bodies more accessible to men.Usually after I fire off an angry comment like this I regret if five seconds later, but in this case? Nope, other than a bit of subject/verb agreement, I still mean it.
You have never been a woman. You do not know what it is like to have a large proportion of men casually assume that they have the perfect right to casually touch any non-sexually coded area of your body. This is my reality. I have to politely explain to random men that no, I do not want their hand upon my shoulder, or hair, or elbow. Now you want to expand the set of body parts to which men may presume access?
Yes, I read the bits about asking permission. Yes, I understand this is opt-in. But live in a fucking woman's reality with a gropey boss for a fucking week before you decide that a woman's body is a tool for some kind of fucking mystical healing experience for men.