Oh jesus, am I wearing my "objectify me" pin again?

You may or may  not have read theferrett 's Open Source Boobies Project manifesto, which for the purposes of this post will be referred to as "Public Domain Boobies" (tm lnhammer) since that is more or less what I take from it.  If you have already heard of it, and would like to read some soothing ranting, hernewshoes has a nice round-up post of reactions.

Interestingly, to me, my first reaction was to think of this post commodorified linked me to the other day.  Obviously, there is a difference of both degree and proposed methodology, but it is fascinating to me that apparently there is a deeply felt conviction among some subset of men that the problem with today's society is that they do not have enough access to women's bodies.

(Also: because asking a Black woman if I can touch her hair is totally a healing experience for both of us, right?  (I don't mean to imply the experiences are equivalent, but is theferrett  completely tone deaf?))

For the record, my comment to theferrett's post:

I have occasionally admired your writing, but in this case, I'm sorry, your head is up your ass. I acknowledge that demystifying women's bodies, acknowledging there can be non-sexual contact between people of different genders is a worthy goal, but in this case, the core of your plan involves making women's bodies more accessible to men.

You have never been a woman. You do not know what it is like to have a large proportion of men casually assume that they have the perfect right to casually touch any non-sexually coded area of your body. This is my reality. I have to politely explain to random men that no, I do not want their hand upon my shoulder, or hair, or elbow. Now you want to expand the set of body parts to which men may presume access?

Yes, I read the bits about asking permission. Yes, I understand this is opt-in. But live in a fucking woman's reality with a gropey boss for a fucking week before you decide that a woman's body is a tool for some kind of fucking mystical healing experience for men.

Usually after I fire off an angry comment like this I regret if five seconds later, but in this case?  Nope, other than a bit of subject/verb agreement, I still mean it.